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Fulfilment of expectation of feeling leads to justice (nyaya). Justice (Nyaya) consists of four elements:

1. Recognition/identification of values (mulya ki pehchan) in one-to-one relationship,

2. Effort made for fulfilment of expectation in relationship (mulya kaa nirvah),

3. Right evaluation of the effort for fulfilment of values and its success etc. and

4. In case of success, feeling of Mutual Happiness (Ubhay-tripti).

For example, in Parent-Child relationship, parent recognises the feeling of Affection, and child recognises
feeling of Gratitude. If child is hungry, parent makes effort to feed the child with feeling of Care (mamta).
And the child, in turn, feels fulfilled and feels Gratitude. Thus, in the process of fulfilment of values, parent
as well as child feels Happiness leading to Ubhay-tripti.

F.2.1 Related topics for discussion

• Sambandh and Sampark
• There are mulya (values) in relationship

F.2.2 Follow up questions are:

1. Do you want nyaya only on a few occasions or every moment? Answer: Every moment

2. Do you think it is the court of jurisdiction that can ensure Nyaya or only open-hearted discussion
within the family members is the way for ensuring Nyaya?

Answer: Discussion within family members.

Elaborate on how the court cannot ensure nyaya. Court can proclaim only judgement (faisla), cannot

ensure ubhay-tripti. Nyaya would be there if all parties recognize their role in fulfilling expectations.

F.3 Transaction and Relationship

A transaction is where two people work together or exchange something according to some agreed terms.
Many functions in a society are accomplished by means of transactions.

In a relationship, expectations are related to feelings. The difference between a relationship and a transaction

is that in a relationship, the feelings are primary.

F.3.1 An Example - Restaurant Operating through Gifts

Consider the following example. A family went to a restaurant, and had a meal. After it was over, they
asked for the bill. The bill surprised them. It listed the expenses for the meal, but at the end, it said you do
not have to pay anything because your bill has been paid! The surprised family looked around as it asked,
but who has paid our bill?

The waiter replied that the previous customer had paid the bill. As the family, start to get up, the waiter
asked, would you like to gift a meal to the next customer?

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