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The other makes mistakes intentionally # I make mistakes by accident The other is at fault # I am right If we

can see the intention of others, it might work miracles, as seen below:

1. If we have trust on other’s intention, we have a feeling of being related to the other and
spontaneously start helping the other to improve his competence, if he is lacking.

2. If we do not have trust on other’s intention, we have a feeling of opposition with the other which
leads to fights, dispute, and ultimately to bitterness.

G.1.2 Further Exploration
A demanded/ asked for/ expected something from B which B could not fulfil. Let us explore, who is at fault
for such non-compliance A or B. Mentors may ask from students the various reasons for which B could not
fulfil the expectation of A. Possible responses may be like the following:

• B is not having the desired thing.

• B does not want to help A.

• In the past, A did not fulfil the expectation of B. And examples like that.

With some dexterity, mentor would prove from each of the responses that A could not build up requisite
Trust in B for fulfilling his expectation, hence the blame rests on A alone for such non- compliance.

Take-away: The Intention of the other is always positive (like myself) only the Competence may be
lacking.

G.1.3 Assignment G.1
1. List the names of persons on whom you have complete Trust on their intention - continuously &
unconditionally.

2. Name persons you feel close to but not coming in the above list. Why do you lack complete Trust in
them? Describe.

3. Also list how many people have complete Trust on you. How do you know it?

H Mulya in Relationship: Respect (Sammaan)

H.1 Definition
Sammaan = Sam (right) + maan (evaluation) Respect =
Right evaluation
H.2 Disrespect (Apmaan)
Whenever the evaluation is not right, it is disrespect. If we observe, we will find in our day-to- day
relationship, we tend to do one of the following four, leading to disrespect:
Over Evaluation (Adhi-mulyan) to evaluate for more than what it is. Under
Evaluation (Ava-mulyan) to evaluate for less than what it is
Otherwise Evaluation (Anyatha-mulyan) to evaluate for other than what it is. No
Evaluation (Amulyan OR Nirmulyan) ignoring to evaluate
H.3 Right Evaluation on the basis of the Self (I) (of a human being)
Seeing that the other is like me (points (1) to (3)):

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