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G Mulya in Relationship: Trust (Vishwas)

G.1 Definition
Everybody wants to be Happy and Prosperous. The assurance within myself that the other human being
wants to make me happy and prosperous continuously and unconditionally is known as Trust.

G.1.1 Exploring into Trust
Verify the following four statements by asking yourself whether you agree: Proposition regarding want or
chaahat

Likely answers of students (write actual answers on the board)

1. I WANT to make myself always happy. # Yes

2. I WANT to make the other person always happy. # Yes

3. The other WANTS to make himself/ herself always happy. # Yes

4. The other WANTS to make myself always happy. # ?
Now verify the following four statements on the basis of your competence: Proposition regarding
competence or yogyata. #

Likely answers:

1. I am ABLE to make myself always happy. # ?

2. I am ABLE to make the other person always happy. # ?

3. The other is ABLE to make himself/ herself always happy. # ?

4. The other is ABLE to make myself always happy. # ??

Take the example of a friend with whom you had a dispute followed by unhappiness
• The first set of four questions [1-4] are related to my intention or chaahat (in other words, what
I really want to be).

• The next four [1-4] are related to my competence or yogyata, in other words, whether I am
capable of rendering what I want.

Contrast between doubt on intention vs. doubt on competence. In terms of competence, trust can be viewed
as: To be assured that the intention of the other is always correct. Let us examine, in general, where we go
wrong in judging the intention and competence.

1. We generally evaluate ourselves on the basis of our intention and others on the basis of their
competence.

2. We seldom look at our competence and other’s intention.

A few examples of the above two statements demonstrate my perception: My perception about the other # My
perception about myself

The other broke a glass # The glass broke due to slip of my hand The other did not come on time # I tried
really hard to reach on time

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