How do you feel at the moment? Positive emotions are uplifting and energizing, while negative emotions deplete us and sometimes even cause physical discomfort. Our emotions have a significant impact on our energy field. Being mindful can assist you in becoming somewhat detached from your emotions so that they don’t overwhelm you. We can shift our attention when we can identify our emotions without acting on them. It is true that feeling good is what you should feel good about!
Physical aches and pains are usually something we are aware of, but we frequently push our emotions aside as we go about our “life”—a demanding job, taking care of the kids, shopping, going to the gym, cooking, watching TV, etc. Maybe we stuff our emotions under the rug so we can get by, or maybe we are just so busy that we never have the time or alone to look inward and recognize our feelings.
Do you feel pain? Do you feel furious? Anger is a protective reaction we have when we believe that our wants or expectations have not been satisfied, and the two emotions are frequently mixed together. You will probably become upset if your friend shows up an hour later than you planned to see them at 10 a.m.
- NEGATIVE EMOTIONS
When you are feeling bad, how do you feel?
Negative emotions can leave you feeling depleted, heavy, exhausted, sluggish, closed, and mentally clouded. They can have a profound impact on the energy field. Occasionally, a person may experience physical pain, such as a squeezing sensation in the chest or a feeling of smashed glass in the solar plexus. Feelings of negativity might cause you to hurt all over. Did you know that your energy field contracts when you lie or are dishonest? A quick kinesiology test will demonstrate that focusing on a negative thought causes a muscle to weaken. If you focus on thinking positively, the muscle will test strongly once more!
We may appear strong when we are angry, but when under pressure, we are at our most vulnerable. An intense wave of rage surges through the body, and when it reaches the brain, our rational intellect shuts down, turning us into completely destructive and irrational beings. The energy field may need several months to recuperate and restore the energy that was depleted at that precise moment. When we are angry, there is no sense of inner serenity or perspective, and we feel tense and hard within.
- POSITIVE EMOTIONS
Positive emotions make us feel lively, light, energized, and confident.We are absorbed in the moment, and time seems to pass more quickly. We feel as though energy is moving and flowing freely. Everything appears smooth and enjoyable, and we feel liberated. We seem to have more space to breathe and more air to breathe in. Harmony and balance are apparent.
When we are content, we don’t need to ask “why.” It is the way things naturally are. But do we give our happy feelings enough thought?
In the Buddhist tradition, it is intentional to create, nurture, and cultivate pleasant feelings. Concentrating on the “antidote” of a bad emotion is one way to loosen its hold. For instance, tolerance and patience are thought to be the antidotes to “rage.” Thus, one would prefer to consider the advantages of tolerance and patience rather than thinking, “I must not get angry.”
Buddhism aims to intentionally cultivate compassion, believing that it can be developed through practice and reflection. What is compassion exactly? It is described as “a deep awareness of another’s suffering coupled with the wish to relieve it” in the Oxford Dictionary. His Divine Right “True compassion is not just an emotional response but a firm commitment founded on reason.” according to the Dalai Lama. Therefore, even if someone behaves poorly, a truly compassionate attitude toward them remains unchanged.
The reasoning goes like this: “Once you have become accustomed to this sense of universal altruism, you develop a feeling of responsibility for others and a wish to actively help them overcome their problems.'” All beings are equal in both their desire for happiness and their right to obtain it. According to him, patience and attention are the keys to cultivating and producing compassion.
MINDFULNESS
The ability to be mindful and observe an emotion without responding to it—that is, to accept it without feeling either liking or disliking—may hold the secret to controlling our emotions.Being self-aware, paying attention, and staying in the present moment are all components of the skill of mindfulness.
Being mindful means that we are paying just the right amount of attention to what is going on; we are exerting just enough effort to stay awake and focused, while also allowing ourselves to be at ease and in control so that we don’t become totally engrossed in it. Being mindful allows you to be conscious of your body, emotions, and mental state.
According to Alyss Thomas’s findings, you can identify yourself as aware when:
- You breathe regularly and get a sense of being in the flow.
- You sense equilibrium,efficacy, engagement, and composure.
- You don’t let ideas or feelings divert you from your goals; instead, you let them come to the surface of your awareness.
- You can take care of yourself and concentrate on something at the same time.
- You have the ability to concentrate and focus when needed without being readily sidetracked.
Becoming mindful can assist you in identifying and recognizing emotions while maintaining a certain level of distance or detachment from them to prevent you from becoming overtaken or submerged by them. If an emotion is rational, it becomes simpler to analyze it using reasoning.
CHANGING FOCUS
Once gaining this insight, you can choose to redirect your focus (release the emotion), perhaps setting it aside to be dealt with later.
Although recognizing and accepting emotions is crucial, reacting to them is not always required. When intense negative emotions first surface, they may appear overwhelming, but they often pass quickly. Emotions, concerns, and feelings all fade over time, especially if we don’t fuel them by fixating on them or spending excessive time pondering them.
Another possibility is that you may be picking up on someone else’s emotions if you notice an abrupt “mood change.” Many sensitive individuals are well aware that they are picking up on other people’s emotions and tuning into their energy fields, which is why they are perceived as “moody.” You can recognize that “this emotion may not be mine” and move on without letting it control you or causing you to react by practicing mindfulness.
“So, how are you feeling right now? Writing about mindfulness and compassion has encouraged and inspired me! It’s true that feeling good about yourself makes you feel better! Before we wrap up, think back to a time when you were happiest—a time when you were considerate, loving, and caring. Remember how it made you feel—soft, gentle, warm, loving, and powerful—and tune into that feeling.
Now, keep that feeling close to your heart so that it can cheer you up, make your day better, and give you the courage and serenity to tackle the challenges that lie ahead.”
Author: Dr. Sataz,
HoD CoNYS.
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